Overwhelmed and Confused About the

California Divorce Process?

Consider Divorce Coaching and Mediation

Are you worried about:

  • How much it’s going to cost to finish your case?
  • How much time you’ll have to take off work to meet with attorneys and go to court?
  • All the confusing court processes and legal forms?
  • Is there a way you can do this where you don’t have to be in the same room together?
  • How much time you’re going to have your kids when the process is all over?
  • Whether you can afford to pay child/spousal support or whether you can afford to live on what you’re going to receive?
  • Are the lawyers just going to get all your money?

I absolutely know how you feel

Hi, I’m Leigh Parsons and I know how it is. I was once there too. The whole divorce process was completely mysterious. The forms were so confusing.

We wanted to agree but couldn’t. We turned the forms into the court and they were rejected, not once but twice. We had no idea how to fix them.

We wanted to move on… but couldn’t. We just wanted it to be over…

A friend suggested Mediation and even though it didn’t make sense to me that it would work (I mean… we’re 2 smart people who don’t hate each other. We should be able to do this on our own, right??), we decided to try it anyway.

What is Mediation?

Mediation isn’t just “splitting things down the middle” or writing up agreements for people who already agree. It’s a process where a neutral 3rd party helps you uncover or discover your true needs and wants and work toward finding an optimal solution where those can be met for you and your spouse/partner as much as possible.*

It was miraculous how a skilled Mediator helped us organize our thoughts, uncover what we really wanted and needed, threw in a few reality checks and brought everything into focus so we could ultimately make informed decisions on our own with his guidance.

Because of how transformative my experience was, within 6 months I was attending law school. After passing the bar, leaving my high-tech career, and working for the Courts as an Attorney-Mediator for 16 years, I’m here to help people all over the State of California take advantage of this transformative experience themselves. (No guarantee you will want to go to law school after your process!)

There’s an easier way to start & finish your case, conveniently and with the most harmonious outcome possible.

With mediation you make the decisions together. The Virtual Divorce System is a coaching and mediation program designed to walk you through the entire process to a quick and stress-free resolution. 

What is Coaching?

Coaching is where I work with you 1-on-1, not as a couple or group, to help you learn about your divorce or separation options, support, parenting plans, property and debt division, all in a way that’s customized for your situation. It’s a cost-effective way to have access to a family law attorney for the help you need and not for the help you don’t need. Help can include discussion, form preparation, talking about upcoming court hearings or mandatory court mediation, filing forms, creating Agreements. Pick and choose the help you need and do the rest yourself if you want. I can also help explain the process if you have a litigating attorney but they don’t have the time to explain the Court process to you.


Poly/Open, Kink, and LGBTQ-friendly, Transgender Safe Space. I can help you with agreements that involve more than 2 spouses/partners.

When you’ve decided that divorce or separation is your next step, I am truly committed to helping you have the most constructive and positive experience possible.


* Wikipedia’s definition of Mediation: a dynamic, structured, interactive process where a neutral third party assists disputing parties in resolving conflict through the use of specialized communication and negotiation techniques. All participants in mediation are encouraged to actively participate in the process. Mediation is a “party-centered” process in that it is focused primarily upon the needs, rights, and interests of the parties. The mediator uses a wide variety of techniques to guide the process in a constructive direction and to help the parties find their optimal solution. A mediator is facilitative in that she/he manages the interaction between parties and facilitates open communication. Mediation is also evaluative in that the mediator analyzes issues and relevant norms (“reality-testing”), while refraining from providing prescriptive advice to the parties (e.g., “You should do… .”).

Mediate online with an experienced family law attorney during evening, weekend, or regular business hours.

Leigh Parsons,
Attorney and Divorce Mediator


Leigh Parson’s legal experience includes:

  • 16 years working as a Staff and Supervising Attorney, for the California Superior Court system.
  • Helping literally 100’s of divorcing couples and separating parents come to an agreement about all the issues that are important to them, and getting those agreements written up, signed by a Judge and filed with the Court.
  • Currently consulting for the Superior Court system about projects to make the law more accessible to regular people.
  • Presentations at statewide conferences about issues such as child support and parentage.
  • Appearances on television about public access to justice.
  • Acting as a temporary (“Pro Tem”) Judge.
  • Working with the State’s Judicial Council on special projects where I can share my passion for integrating technology to help everyone have simple, straightforward access to Court services.

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